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If you feel an intense pressure to be perfect, this evidence-based workbook offers real strategies based in cognitive-behavioral therapy (CBT) to help you develop a more balanced and healthy perspective.

Do you hold yourself, and perhaps others, to extremely high standards? Do you procrastinate certain tasks because you are afraid you won’t carry them out perfectly? If you answered yes to one or both of these questions, chances are you are a perfectionist. And while there’s nothing wrong with hard work and high standards, perfectionism can also take over your life if you let it. So, how can you find balance?

With this workbook, you will identify the causes of your perfectionism and the ways it is negatively impacting your life. Rather than measuring your self-worth by productivity and accomplishments, you’ll learn to exercise self-compassion, and extend that compassion to others. You will also learn ways to prioritize the things that really matter to you, without focusing on attaining fixed goals.

Life isn’t perfect, and neither are we. If you’re ready to break free from out-of-control perfectionism and start living a richer, fuller life, this workbook will help you get started.

23 reviews for The CBT Workbook for Perfectionism: Evidence-Based Skills to Help You Let Go of Self-Criticism, Build Self-Esteem, and Find Balance (Practical Skills to … Find Balance, and Reclaim Your Self-Worth)

  1. Heather J.
    (23)
    July 20, 2023
    5.0 out of 5 stars Really helpful
    Helpful and not overly technical.
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    Reviewer
    (23)
    December 15, 2022
    5.0 out of 5 stars Very helpful resource on perfectionism
    This workbook is a great resource for perfectionism with practical examples and exercises for discovering why many of us suffer from this issue, how t...More
    This workbook is a great resource for perfectionism with practical examples and exercises for discovering why many of us suffer from this issue, how to recognize the signs of being overly critical of ourselves, and how to make peace with our imperfections. Not filled with a lot of fluff, it gets right to the point with practical advice.
    Helpful? 2 0
    alabee
    (23)
    July 26, 2022
    5.0 out of 5 stars Really helped me
    I love this book, it really helped me so much. I will definitely be referring back to it. One of the best self help books I’ve ever read. Loved the pr...More
    I love this book, it really helped me so much. I will definitely be referring back to it. One of the best self help books I’ve ever read. Loved the prompts. Got so much out of this
    Helpful? 3 0
    MsShelton
    (23)
    July 25, 2022
    5.0 out of 5 stars So good.
    Great book. Easy to pick up and put down
    Helpful? 2 0
    Marcia Welser
    (23)
    June 1, 2022
    5.0 out of 5 stars So helpful!
    This book is packed with practical, real insight for us perfectionists. Each chapter adds another layer of insight. The questions and exercises help ...More
    This book is packed with practical, real insight for us perfectionists. Each chapter adds another layer of insight. The questions and exercises help apply the principles. But be careful and don't try to do each exercise perfectly or you won't get through the whole work book :-) I have learned a lot about myself by going through this workbook, and I'm learning to accept and enjoy being imperfect!
    Helpful? 7 0
    alleghenysam
    (23)
    April 18, 2022
    5.0 out of 5 stars how seen are you ready to be?
    Perhaps the most helpful thing I've encountered as a lifelong perfectionist-procastinator-etc. I was expecting to roll my eyes and thumb through but i...More
    Perhaps the most helpful thing I've encountered as a lifelong perfectionist-procastinator-etc. I was expecting to roll my eyes and thumb through but it's truly given me some good language and tools, and some things to deeply consider about where and how my time goes. Highly recommended, and big thanks to Sharon Martin for giving me a kind shove in a better direction.
    Helpful? 5 0
    Erica
    (23)
    August 11, 2021
    5.0 out of 5 stars Life altering
    Don’t believe anyone who rated this book 4 stars or less. Personally, I think it deserves more than 5 stars. If you struggle with perfectionism, pleas...More
    Don’t believe anyone who rated this book 4 stars or less. Personally, I think it deserves more than 5 stars. If you struggle with perfectionism, please read this book
    Helpful? 3 0
    Gerald Landis
    (23)
    April 7, 2021
    5.0 out of 5 stars Everyone needs this book
    Everyone needs the book.
    Helpful? 2 0
    Vera
    (23)
    November 11, 2020
    5.0 out of 5 stars Very Helpful Workbook
    This workbook is hard work, but worth it. I was diagnosed with perfectionism a few months ago and this book has been a helpful counterpart to my ther...More
    This workbook is hard work, but worth it. I was diagnosed with perfectionism a few months ago and this book has been a helpful counterpart to my therapy. It addresses every aspect from how it began to how it effects your life now and how to overcome it. It is well worth it if you're honest and take the time to answer the questions.
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    Overlord Thunderbeast
    (23)
    November 9, 2020
    5.0 out of 5 stars Amazing and Insightful
    I was diagnosed with GAD and panic disorder and am currently on medication to control my symptoms. I was seeing a therapist but had to stop for financ...More
    I was diagnosed with GAD and panic disorder and am currently on medication to control my symptoms. I was seeing a therapist but had to stop for financial reasons. Many of the things I discussed with my therapist are right here in this workbook for a fraction of the cost of a therapy session AND it includes exercises to practice the ideas in it. While I agree that this would be more helpful with the assistance of a licensed therapist, this is incredibly useful on its own. Almost as good as having a therapist in your home. Not surprising though considering the author has her own practice.

    My only criticism is that the format for the Kindle version is not the most convenient to work on since AFAIK I cannot type into the tables or worksheets. I’ve had to screenshot the exercises and use markup or another app to be able to type/write onto the worksheets. This is more an issue with Kindle and its app though. It was only a minor inconvenience to me to figure out a workaround since I’m decently tech savvy.
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    Southern Belle
    (23)
    October 12, 2020
    5.0 out of 5 stars Good resource
    Use this regularly with clients
    Helpful? 2 0
    william
    (23)
    July 7, 2020
    5.0 out of 5 stars Recommend!!
    I have recommended this book to so many people and they loved it too. Easy to read. Great applications and content.
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    Kevin W.
    (23)
    April 26, 2020
    5.0 out of 5 stars Nice, helpful workbook
    Just started this book, but it is well made and well written. I find it to be insightful and easy to use. There is plenty of room for each exercise. I...More
    Just started this book, but it is well made and well written. I find it to be insightful and easy to use. There is plenty of room for each exercise. I think it will be helpful.
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    steveo4328
    (23)
    February 16, 2020
    5.0 out of 5 stars Great for working on reducing perfectionism.
    Really helps with topics of self compassion, forgiveness, and moving through procrastination. I like how it is laid out.
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    carol kummer
    (23)
    October 22, 2019
    5.0 out of 5 stars Perfection is a jail sentence inward
    So many people could be helped by this workbook
    Helpful? 2 0
    Jeanne
    (23)
    June 20, 2019
    5.0 out of 5 stars Super helpful
    I'm not usually a workbook fan but I'm getting so much out of this workbook!
    Helpful? 8 0
    Martha
    (23)
    April 19, 2019
    5.0 out of 5 stars Wonderful Resource in ending perfectionism, people-pleasing and overwhelm
    As a therapist who works with teen girls and women who struggle with perfectionism, people pleasing, and anxiety, Sharon’s workbook is a wonderful res...More
    As a therapist who works with teen girls and women who struggle with perfectionism, people pleasing, and anxiety, Sharon’s workbook is a wonderful resource to use during a session and in between sessions.
    Whether you are in therapy or use this on your own, this workbook can help build your skills in self-acceptance and improve your self-esteem. Sharon brings her years of experience in being a social worker, writer, and author into this workbook. She not only gives a wide array of real-life examples in each chapter; each chapter continues to build upon one another in a clear and organized way, so you can have a strong foundation of reprogramming your thoughts to loving yourself as the imperfect human each of us is.
    I highly recommend this workbook if you are struggling with a loud inner critic, thinking you are not enough and think you need to be perfect to be loved.
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    Erika Labuzan-Lopez
    (23)
    April 16, 2019
    5.0 out of 5 stars Inspiring Workbook
    As a "recovering" perfectionist and fellow therapist, I find this workbook incredibly helpful for myself and my clients. I am personally obsessed wit...More
    As a "recovering" perfectionist and fellow therapist, I find this workbook incredibly helpful for myself and my clients. I am personally obsessed with workbooks because they allow people to take their own pace and make space to think about these complex subjects to the individual issues at hand. The layout makes sense, and the material builds on itself-which makes doing deep work a bit more digestible. The questions are thought provoking and Sharon provides the right amount of explanation with exercises. This has become a great resource for my clients, friends, and family.
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    CJP
    (23)
    March 12, 2019
    5.0 out of 5 stars Great Help!
    This workbook is So helpful, useful, and easy to use. It says you can use it alone or with your counselor and that is true. I started it alone, but ...More
    This workbook is So helpful, useful, and easy to use. It says you can use it alone or with your counselor and that is true. I started it alone, but since it involves issues I am talking to the counselor about, I am now using it with her.
    Helpful? 13 0
    Elizabeth H. Cush
    (23)
    January 29, 2019
    5.0 out of 5 stars Wow! an amazing resource!
    I love this workbook! Sharon Martin covers everything from how perfectionism develops to strategies for self-compassion. Her step-by-step exercises al...More
    I love this workbook! Sharon Martin covers everything from how perfectionism develops to strategies for self-compassion. Her step-by-step exercises allow the reader to go at their own pace when working through the chapters, or jump in to areas that might need particular attention. I've already given away one copy and will continue to recommend it to my clients who struggle with perfectionism and the anxiety it creates!
    Helpful? 12 0
    Richard J. Coleman
    (23)
    January 22, 2019
    5.0 out of 5 stars A really helpful and easy to use guidebook!
    This is a wonderful book in workbook format. I found it to be very well written, and most importantly, accessible to the average person. You don't h...More
    This is a wonderful book in workbook format. I found it to be very well written, and most importantly, accessible to the average person. You don't have to be a professional to understand it, although it is based on up-to-date research and the author's many years of experience as a psychotherapist. It is well organized and each chapter, with exercises, flows smoothly into the next. It gently expands your ideas about perfectionism and offers real-life examples that anyone can relate to. I'm just halfway through, but am excited to keep going. I feel grateful to Sharon Martin for giving us this resource!
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    Kate Pieper MFT
    (23)
    January 20, 2019
    5.0 out of 5 stars Excellent tool
    In an age of Shame Resiliency and learning how our perfectionism holds us back, Sharon Martin, MSW, LCSW brings us the solutions. This book is full of...More
    In an age of Shame Resiliency and learning how our perfectionism holds us back, Sharon Martin, MSW, LCSW brings us the solutions. This book is full of thought provoking exercises, explanations, and well thought-out tools for anyone to use. I am delighted I purchased this book for myself and will definitely be using it with my clients! - Kate Pieper, MA, LMFT, CCISM
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    Michelle Farris
    (23)
    January 3, 2019
    5.0 out of 5 stars This book is incredibly powerful and grabbed me from the start!
    I absolutely LOVED this book. I knew I had some tendencies towards perfectionism but this book explains in detail the signs and symptoms that I would ...More
    I absolutely LOVED this book. I knew I had some tendencies towards perfectionism but this book explains in detail the signs and symptoms that I would have missed otherwise. It's such a gentle approach that I help me to understand myself in a deeper way. I instantly related to the personal examples and found the exercises very easy and though provoking. As a therapist, I have already recommended this book to several clients ( and friends ) for those struggling with high expectations and people pleasing behaviors. This is a must read for anyone seeking positive change from issues like low self-esteem, perfectionism, difficulty letting go, self-forgiveness, adult children of alcoholic issues and codependency. Such a wonderful contribution to our field! Thank you Sharon!
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