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Do you know a child that gets upset when their routine changes? They might also struggle to see the big picture, to make friends, to problem solve in real time, and to read nonverbal communication. Meltdowns, tantrums and other challenging behaviors might be common.

This book was written to teach you how making small shifts in your language and speaking style will produce important results. You will stop telling kids what to do and instead thoughtfully give them information to help them make important discoveries in the moment. These moments build resilience, flexibility, and positive relationships over time.

You might be a therapist or a teacher, or you might be a parent, grandparent, or babysitter. Your child might have a diagnosis such as autism, Asperger’s Syndrome, ADHD, PDA or Non-Verbal Learning Disability. But they might not. No matter your child’s learning style, this book was written to help you feel equipped to make a difference, simply by being mindful of your own communication and speaking style.

“When I heard that Linda Murphy was writing “Declarative Language Handbook”, a hallmark of RDI, I knew that our Autism and Communication worlds were about to be influenced by the cutting edge thinking of a truly remarkable expert in the field. What I wasn’t prepared for were the crisp, practical, useful guidelines that will make this the most important book on the shelf of clinicians and parents.”
Rachelle K. Sheely PhD President & Co-Founder of RDIConnect

“The shift to increased student agency and teachers as coaches is dependent on a new kind of language in the classroom. Declarative language elevates teaching to that new level.”
Melissa Andrichak MAT, First Grade Teacher

“As a seasoned clinician, I found that when I changed my language from imperative to declarative, I started to notice new competencies of children. I am continually amazed at how simple (but difficult!) changes in my language can be so powerful and bring about incredible changes in a short time. We are so fortunate to have Linda explain the principles of Declarative Language in a book.”
Martha Bargmann MS, CCC-SLP Speech Language Pathologist at Massachusetts General Hospital for Children

“Finally! An easy to read book that meets parents and educators ‘in the trenches’ with information and strategies that help our kids learn critical thinking, social problem solving and executive functioning skills. This book is proof of how making small shifts in our language can have far reaching results.”
Beckham Linton M.A., CCC-SLP, Social Learning Consultant /Coach

“What if people mostly used language with you to tell you what to do or to tell you that you should have done it better? I think you’d agree, that would get discouraging rather fast! For individuals with social learning challenges, this is too often their experience. Through this handbook, Linda guides us to notice how a shift in our use of language (from imperative to declarative) can fundamentally shift how children relate to us and the world around them. Through many practical examples and tips for developing our own use of declarative language, Linda provides us the tools to build positive, pro-active relationships with the individuals we parent, teach or counsel.”
Michelle Garcia Winner, Founder of the Social Thinking Methodology
Speech Language Pathologist, MA-CCC

10 reviews for Declarative Language Handbook: Using a Thoughtful Language Style to Help Kids with Social Learning Challenges Feel Competent, Connected, and Understood

  1. Leonard Elbeyli
    (10)
    October 6, 2024
    Parents- read it
    This is one of the best books I’ve read as a parent of an autistic child. I’m excited to try this method. The book explains how to shift your communic...More
    This is one of the best books I’ve read as a parent of an autistic child. I’m excited to try this method. The book explains how to shift your communication and the potential benefits.
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    Maggie Twigg
    (10)
    September 21, 2024
    Learn how to Speak in a neutral way that Invites instead of agitates
    Most of us learned how to speak in a Bossy way from our parents, older sibs, teachers. Then English class taught us how to speak in an impersonal way...More
    Most of us learned how to speak in a Bossy way from our parents, older sibs, teachers. Then English class taught us how to speak in an impersonal way. But nobody likes being spoken to in a bossy, impersonal way! This book introduced Declarative Speech to me. It is a way to just be neutral, without colorations of judgement or authority. Awesome!
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    CR
    (10)
    June 15, 2024
    Very insightful
    I used this for my kids and it’s very effective in terms of the type of language to use that works
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    ireadalot
    (10)
    June 7, 2024
    Game changer
    I’m a peds OT and this. Book changed how I talk to kids when I want them to do something.
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    Alissa Fox
    (10)
    April 29, 2024
    Perfect for SLP use!
    Lots of wonderful info for SLPs! This was recommended in a class to use with children who are autistic. I love the information provided.
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    kelestrera
    (10)
    April 7, 2024
    Great, easy read with BIG impact!
    Gives me hope on simple changes I can make to the way I communicate. So practical and clearly explained. There should be more resources like this for ...More
    Gives me hope on simple changes I can make to the way I communicate. So practical and clearly explained. There should be more resources like this for parents of neurodivergent kids.
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    Mary A.
    (10)
    February 19, 2024
    Great Parenting Techniques
    I use this language with my children daily and it has been a game changer with many kids I work with.!
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    Alysia Olsen
    (10)
    December 25, 2023
    Game changer in our family
    Our daughter WANTS to help, and using this language gives her an opportunity to do it on her terms. Short read and 100% worth it for any parent or car...More
    Our daughter WANTS to help, and using this language gives her an opportunity to do it on her terms. Short read and 100% worth it for any parent or caregiver of kids with a strong desire for autonomy!
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    CourtneyM
    (10)
    September 27, 2023
    A mindshift that's worth it
    This is a very clearly written, approachable introduction to declarative language. It's also very practical. I can already see my attempts starting to...More
    This is a very clearly written, approachable introduction to declarative language. It's also very practical. I can already see my attempts starting to work and positively support my son and the atmosphere at home.
    Helpful? 2 0
    M R
    (10)
    December 31, 2022
    Life-changing language strategy
    This book, along with The Explosive Child by Dr. Ross Greene, was instrumental in supporting our child with demand avoidance, emotional regulation, a...More
    This book, along with The Explosive Child by Dr. Ross Greene, was instrumental in supporting our child with demand avoidance, emotional regulation, and executive functioning. After seeing tremendous growth and progress at home, I've shared this strategy with several teachers that I coach to better support individual children. It's not an intuitive method, and it takes time, but it really, really works.
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